Significant others, friends, family members, we hope you understand.
We hope you understand that you know how important you are to us. Without you, we don’t know what our lives would look like, and we’re so thankful we don’t have to. We think about the people in this world that don’t have what we have, and we are filled with gratitude that we have such an amazing support system. It is a honor to be chosen to be in your lives and to have us play a part in yours.
We hope you understand all the roles that we play.
Caretaker, financial planner, housekeeper, chauffeur, counselor, teacher, nurse, cook, personal shopper, travel agent. The list truly goes on and on. We give to you every part of us, because you deserve nothing but the best. We show how much we care by doing, by being there, by supporting. Often, we don’t think, “oh would they do this for me?” because this is how we show our love to you.
We hope you understand that sometimes, being at work is a break for us.
It isn’t that we can’t wait to be away from you, but we get to be someone who simply concentrates on her work there. That doesn’t mean our jobs are easy. Our work can take a toll on us, just like yours can. Sometimes we want to simply come home and stare at a wall, and when we are crabby or upset, it’s not because we don’t want to see you. Sometimes we just want to be able to come home and relax after a long day, but it feels like we can’t with a to-do list looming.
We hope you understand that sometimes, we get tired.
Physically, mentally, emotionally. Because we are doing so much, we don’t often worry about taking care of ourselves, until it’s too late. When we ask for help, we hope you understand we aren’t being lazy. We are simply drowning; we aren’t mad at you when we don’t have much to say, when we ditch out of plans to stay home and doing nothing. If it seems like we aren’t listening, we aren’t doing it on purpose. Locked inside our brain, we are most likely thinking about what we need to do next.
We hope you understand that we are usually our own harshest critic.
We often feel guilt- we aren’t doing enough as a wife, friend, daughter, mother, employee. Transitioning between constant self-doubt to self-love is really hard. You help so much-those texts, cards or flowers that let us know you see what we are doing, mean more than you’ll ever know.
We hope you understand that sometimes you need to remind us to take care of ourselves.
Yes, we are working on making it a priority to ourselves as well, but new habits take time. And sometimes, we admit, when we are used to taking care of other people, we aren’t even sure how to care for ourselves. We hope you understand that by us spending just a few minutes every day doing something for ourselves, everyone’s life gets better. Not ignoring you, not trying to be selfish; simply making our mental health a priority now.
We hope you understand that we are trying to lead by example, so that our daughters, our friends, our family, can see how important it is to take care of ourselves.
Trying to figure out how to take care of ourselves is difficult, but we want to be able to help others when they feel like we have. We aren’t needlessly spending money or spending time to ourselves because we are sick of you; we simply want to feel rested, emotionally and physically. We’re looking balance, like we aren’t draining our cup to fill everyone else’s. Like how we used to, we want to feel happy and content.
We hope you understand, we love you so much.
We love the time we spend together, regardless of what we are doing. We love the life we’ve built and we hope you understand, by establishing these boundaries, we don’t mean less quality time with you. It doesn’t mean we love you any less. It simply means we’ve decided to love ourselves too.